Category: Father

Growing up as a child my dad was never there for me. I always saw families including a mum and a dad and then I would look at mine and feel like something was missing. My mum separated from my dad before I could even walk so I never really knew what it was like to have a dad and I was always told I didn’t need one; however my mind still wondered if it would be better with one.

When I was younger my gran and grandpa lived in Lanzarote however me and my sister would always Facetime her so we knew who she was. She finally moved back home and we got to meet her and we always went on days out. She spoiled us so much all the time, I remember once she took me out shopping and bought me lots of new clothes and then we went for food. This happened when I was five and still to this day I remember it. Unfortunately, she then got diagnosed with breast cancer, and being five I didn’t understand how serious this was until my mum told me what this meant, however my gran being the positive person she was did not let this bother her and then took me and my sister on a trip to Disneyland Paris which was my first ever holiday. Again this was her spoiling us like rotten. A couple of months after Disneyland we then went to a caravan park and I felt like the luckiest girl in the world as I had never been spoiled so much in all my life. Fortunately, my gran bet cancer which I and my family were all really happy about. As I got older I now realize why she spoiled us so much, obviously, she still loved us no matter what but felt the need to spoil me and my sister over her eight grandchildren as we never had a dad to take us on these special days out and make us feel like the “luckiest girl in the world”.

When I was younger my dad attempted to make a little bit of effort now and then like this one time when he told my sister that we were going to meet the “real” Santa Claus being such a young age and how much he built this up we were so excited and couldn’t sleep the night before. The next day we got up and got dressed as quickly as we could, bearing in mind this was at 7 am. We continued to be excited thinking about how good the day was going to be and just imagining what it was going to be like. It came to about half an hour till my dad was meant to pick us up and my sister put our coats on and waited at the window for him to come. We were waiting for ages and ages still excited but half an hour had passed; it had now been an hour. Me and my sister standing at the window began to lose hope however we still stood there hoping that he could come for us. This never happened and it was left to my mum to tell us that he wasn’t coming. Me and my sister were gutted as we built up so much excitement for this trip and saw our dad that we cried all night thinking it was “our fault” or that we were “naughty” and that was the reason for us not going. This is the first memory of my dad.

Growing up I always watched my mum struggle as she had to work part time. The reason for this is that we had a parent when we came home from school as she always wanted to be there for us. She also struggled due to the lack of my dad’s maintenance money. By this time he had a new wife and kids. The wife had a lot of bad opinions on us and was not nice to us at all. Whenever my mum tried to get money from my dad so that she could feed us she would message my mum horrible things like “go get a job” even though she already had one. My dad never did anything about this which made me feel betrayed. I felt as if he preferred his new wife to his own two daughters.

My dad split up from his wife not that long ago which I was understandably relieved about. I was staying at my gran’s house and my dad came to visit which I was a bit surprised about as I hadn’t seen him in ages. When he came he asked if I wanted to go do something with him and I said yes as I thought it would be good to spend time with him. I felt pleased as he wanted to spend time with me. We went bowling and after went to an ice cream place, I started to look up at my dad and thought that this was him changing and that there would be many more days like this to come. When we went back to my grandma’s house he stayed the night and we stayed up all night watching movies and he went and got pizza at 3 am. My opinion had changed at this moment in time which I was delighted about. I went home the next day and told my mum about what an amazing time I had but she warned me it wouldn’t last long and I didn’t believe her. Anyway, the next week when I went to stay at my gran’s I asked where my dad was and my gran said he was in London for work which I was a bit gutted about as I wanted to see him but I didn’t think much of it. About two weeks later my mum had told me that no maintenance money had gone in but this was just the usual. My sister then checked his Facebook. He had been tagged in several posts of him in Lanzarote and he had gone there the day I left him. To this day I still haven’t seen him and he is still currently living in Spain.

However, from this experience, I have finally come to learn that I didn’t need a dad and that I’m probably better off without him. I have also learned that the family that is there for you are the ones you should look up to.

Each person has their own personality, but the way one acts today might be the result of what that person learned while growing up. One person can change another’s life in a variety of ways; a simple sentence from someone important to you can change your worldview completely. Other people’s influence is forever present in our daily lives, but only one is the most influential person in my life: my dad.

Since the first moment I came into this world, the first person I saw was my dad. Growing up, I was extremely close to him. To this day, that fact has not changed. We make jokes together. Every time I see my reflection, I can see some of his features. He not only is my biological relative, but also an inspiration to me.

My dad has always been the epitome of what a man should be. He is full of compassion, strength, gentleness, comedy, understanding, and above all, he is a man of values.

He has taught me to be comfortable with who I am, to always be able to laugh at myself, and to trust my gut. He understands me, listens to me, and most importantly, he believes in me, even when others refuse to. His support has helped me to mold into the person I am today; no matter the situation, his words always make me rise when I fall.

My father has taught me to have strong moral values, personal responsibility, honesty, and trust. He has shown me how to be compassionate and to be a respectful person in life. While he showed me how to have fun and laugh, he also has taught me the meaning of hard work, and the meaning of love.

My father has always been there to share with me moments of joy and times of hardship. He has given me his personal time, so that I may grow up to face the challenging world ahead of me full of courage and hope. My father is not perfect, and like every human, he has his faults, struggles, and weaknesses. He has taught me, however, how to face these imperfections with a positive attitude and a strong will. The memories I have shared with my father thus far will be everlasting and have a positive influence on my life like no other.

And perhaps most notably, he has inspired me to have determination in whatever I do, to never give way in my efforts, and to never let challenges be an obstacle to my success.

Nowadays people look up to celebrities and athletes as their role model, which they follow their footsteps. In my case, I do not see them as a real role model, and to me, the definition of a role model is someone who has always been there helping and guides you based on their personal life experience. First of all our family who will have your back in life no matter what and supports you at any life stage without judging you. Of course, I look up to my father as my role model who has been there throughout my life and supported and guided me in every life stage. Ever Since I could remember he has been beside me supporting my dream and goal I have ever had.

The first thing I admire is his thoughts he has about my future, which most people wish their father have it. My father is a pediatrician and he had always wanted me to follow his footsteps to become like him, and he has helped thousands of in need people through his career as a doctor. This is exactly how I want my children to look up to me when I grow old and have my own children, and I want to be an example to my children by helping people who are in need. He is a strong man, great supporter, and loves to help others before he helps himself. Growing up, I have always looked up to him because with all the struggles he still manages to keep a smile on his face and keep life going on. He always tells me “Make me proud Rezvan”, which I wish to do and not let him down. But sometimes I fear if I could not fulfill his dream that he has about me and disappoint him, will be the worst day of my life, however, I will do my best.

My father attended medical faculty at Kabul University long before wars hit Afghanistan, after graduating as a pediatrician he always traveled to places where people had no access to public health places and helped those who need help. He has been a pediatrician for almost 40 years. To this day he still loves every minute of it. He is a very hard working and made sure that everyone that he treated had fully recovered and completed the follow-ups. Even though Bruno also loved and respected his father, but he somewhat feared him. He always walked slowly toward his office and hesitated before going in. The commandant might have been a good father, but he obviously put his jobs first, which had negatively affected Bruno’s life. Additionally, he is not a merciful father as he shakes Bruno`s hand rather than hugging him. As I compare my father with Bruno’s father, in reality, it seems to be quite different. Therefore, his father was not a compassionate man when I read the book I realized that his father killed many innocent people and his son also died in the gas chamber with those people that he has been given the order to kill them. I hope that when I am older, in whatever career I choose, I will work just as hard to be as successful as my father.

In conclusion, everyone has that one person they look up to as a role model; to me, there is none other than my father. He has one of the biggest hearts I know. Without him, in my life, I have no idea where I would be. Someday, when I am married and have children of my own, I hope I can be just as great of a father to them as my father has been for me.

My father is my proposal for the reason that the day I was born. When I was little, the thinking I had for him was once as soon as there is nothing impossible for him. That used to be the definition for him. Still, it is in so many ways. He taught me to see dreams, better ones, and he additionally taught me to make them a reality. I was once in no way a lot less than a son to him. In truth, he used to be very proud of having me, my sister, and my younger brother. My lifestyle has been so reachable with him around. He is an accountable father and a correct police officer. He inspired me to be a correct man, responsible, brave, and God-fearing. He always tells me to intention high for my future. He is a father who will provide the whole lot that he has, even though he had nothing left. He can do everything just to provide our wants in life, we are so blessed that he is our father.

Growing up with my father taught me many precious lessons, specifically to be kind to everyone and to in no way give up. These simple but necessary instructions have fashioned my lifestyle in its entirety. My dad is the kindest man that I have ever met. So, I will work difficult to pursue my desires and be a man like my father, I will find out about hard for my dreams, I desire to emerge as a police officer someday, simply like him, and I will continually chase that dream.

My father taught me many instructions in life because I used to be a little boy, but the one that stood above them all used to be education. He constantly told me that if I wanted to be profitable, I would have to go to school to make something out of myself. My family is now not a wealthy family. Therefore, my dad saved every single cash he earned from work to buy something that I needed. He usually prompted me and still encourages me to go to school because he knows that the value of training will determine my future. As a result, I admire him. My dad has had a large impact on how I am today. He has influenced my life by using educating me on instructions and displaying to me the rights and wrongs.

Does growing up without a father figure affect the child?

Introduction:

I chose this topic because it seemed interesting to me because I’m one of those kids and I don’t think it affected me much but I’m hoping to find out whether it affects others in some way and if it does I want to find out how and if there is more than one way. I have been interested in this topic for a while. I am also hoping to learn whether it’s a struggle for these kids to then have male friends and whether their opinion on male species changed based on the fact about what their mothers told them or how they find out about what happened to their fathers in the first place. Another question I wanted to research was whether or not later on in life the children would like to find their father and if it affects one gender more than the other and what is the overall cause of couples splitting in the first place. This is why if have picked this specific topic.

Findings:

Psychological effects:

How we are growing up, who we are growing up with and the experience we get will greatly affect our future. There has been researching carried out and the results were quite interesting. The experiment was held by Dr.Gabriella Gobbi at McGill University in Canada. The experiment was carried out on California mice as they are also monogamous and just like humans raise their children together. The brain of the fatherless mice appears to develop differently and work differently as well. The main impact is on the part of the brain that controls social and cognitive activity. Mice raised without a father show signs of ‘abnormal social interactions. They also display signs of aggression so they are far more aggressive than mice raised with both parents. This affected the mice the same way it would affect a human being which proves that children with no father are more aggressive. This deviant behavior seems to affect females more than males and girls have been shown more likely to develop substance addiction which is a problem in our generation. On the other hand, guys growing up without a father are likely to drop out of school for both good and bad reasons. One of the reasons being drug and alcohol addiction while the other reason is to work and earn money so the family won’t starve. Overall it affects females more than males. The main problem with all of this is a divorce in general. In countries such as India which has a divorce rate as low as 1% and Chile which has a divorce rate of 3% that is possible because in India they choose wisely who they marry because in their religion you have to spend a lot of money on a wedding and most of India is below poverty so they cannot afford another wedding, that is why the divorce rate is so low. After doing more research I have found out that around fifteen million children grow up without a father and that’s only in America.57.6% of black children,31.2% of Hispanic and 20.7% of white children are living without a father which is a lot in my opinion. Some of the countries with the highest divorce rate are Luxemburg, Spain, France, and Russia with the highest divorce rate being 87%. Not all people In India are happily married. Some marriage is forced because of religion, because of the parents, or because people don’t have enough money so they only marry for money.

Problems and solutions:

Mental Health:

children growing up without a father are more prone to drugs, smoking, and also depression. I think a solution to that problem would be for others to constantly talk to their children about general things and keep any addictive substances away from them until they are old enough to understand that they are bad for them. Also, it would be a good idea for parents and mothers to have at least some idea of who their children are friends with and whether it’s affecting their kids in any way.

Education:

Even though it’s harder to change children’s cognitive scores than noncognitive there is still evidence that having no father affects those children and most have been proven less likely to graduate from high school which means higher levels of unemployment and less money for the to survive in the future. I think a good solution would be that some jobs to be made for people who didn’t graduate so they can at least survive. Or those kids get part-time jobs to get some experience and have some chances of getting a job.

Overall development:

A child growing up with a father has a higher IQ by the age of 3 than a child that is growing up without one. Children with a father are also more ready to start school and deal better with being away from home. Every year two parenting households decrease by 1.2 Million.

Opinion:

Growing up without a father figure mostly affects girls. Males are not affected as much but it still affects them in some way. I don’t think this should be happening because parents’ splitting still affects the child’s life no matter how much it does. I think that if couples are married they should stay married. I think there should be more countries like India because that will solve a lot. People should pay more attention to this problem

Summary and conclusion:

In conclusion, I have found out that most women are affected psychologically more than men and there are no other effects besides that. I have also found why most couples split which is also the reason why so many children are without a father. The reasons are they are not married because they love each other most people are married because the marriages are either arranged or people get married for the other person’s money but there are ways to stop that and that is what people should focus on.

Sources :

1. https://www.allprodad.com/10-reasons-why-kids-without-dads-are-at-a-big-disadvantage/
2. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2518247/Growing-father-permanently-alter-BRAIN-Fatherless-children-likely-grow-angry-turn-drugs.html
3. https://ifstudies.org/blog/yes-father-absence-causes-the-problems-its-associated-with
4. https://m.washingtontimes.com/news/2012/dec/25/fathers-disappear-from-households-across-america/
5. https://www.unifiedlawyers.com.au/blog/global-divorce-rates-statistics
6. https://www.quora.com/Why-is-divorce-rate-so-low-in-India
7. https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/Psychological-Effects-On-Men-Growing-Up-Without-A-Father
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Self Introduces

I am from Bangladesh and also from the Khulna division, Chuadanga district; My name is Razia Sultana, Shove. My father’s name is Md. Tofazzel Hossain. I have completed the MSC department of computer science and Engineering at Islamic University, Kushtia. Bangladesh.

My favorite role model is always my Father

Who is my favorite role model?:

The most significant truth is that I have seen the light of the world first, who is the reason only? Undoubtedly, for this honorable person, And also I can write down some of my achievements, just because of that! My favorite person, my superman, and indeed role model in my life; always he is no one else, my honorable Father!

Father is my favorite role model, and why??:

Okay, I say.; I am from Bangladesh. My mother’s language, the sweetest Bangla! I hope everyone knows about the remember 1971; nine months long, it’s memorable wartime in the world. There were a thousand liberated soldiers’ achievements, our golden Bengali in the bloody struggle. My Father is a freedom fighter, of them.

Yeah, an interesting fact for me is that I am the daughter of a liberated soldier who won the war! My Father, when he took part in the war, then he was only 15 years old! During the war, my father was a soldier under sector number 8. He was also one of the earners of Bangladesh’s name in exchange for a long nine-month war.

Of course, I will be proud, to see my Father’s patriotism; this is my Father, favorite role model in my life of me! Undoubtedly played a role in his in the 1971 war. The biggest significant achievement for me is that I am a citizen of a country at war, and I am the daughter of a soldier in that war. In my simple concept, My national identity card, yet this is my special achievement and proud identity.

My national identity has mentioned that I am the offspring of a wounded freedom fighter. There is the name of My Fathers: War Wounded freedom fighter Md.Tofazzal Hossain. He is my honorable Father and always will be my favorite role model belonging to me in life.

Always, I like three characteristics of my Father:

Patriotism, Authenticity, Good sense;

Source of many inspiration to do:

I have learned to love the country with my Father. Always will be respected by to own Mother; this is determined, Father. All things to think about with adventure and doing all right types are; I still get to do a lot for my role model Father. And also Authenticity, and civic love; that’s everything my Father inspired me to do.

Thank you to high school, for teaching me to be reluctant to failure. One of my toughest memories I have to look back on everyday is my failure to push myself throughout high school because of fear and doubt. Devastation is a strong word, but I feel that way knowing I didn’t try harder, knowing that I can achieve what I need due to my focus and drive senior year. This could have helped in the beginning of high school.

I won’t regret that I believed my parents divorce, my father’s illness, and my 10 year old brother’s depression was an excuse to disturb me from school. I’m so thankful for these experiences, they taught me life lessons. My father’s scrutinizing medical problems lead to the divorce, mom wasn’t happy because of the money we were losing due to my father being sick and that has to be the hardest thing to think of everyday. My dad, a hard working retired firefighter taught me hard work, selflessness, and as basic as it sounds, to never give up on what you want. Seeing my father at such a young age struggle to take care of my siblings and I, sank my heart. He didn’t tell us what was going on with his heart. Oddly, my parents expected us to ignore the doctor phone calls, prescription bottles, and medical bills laid out on the kitchen table.

Us five had a good life for a while and when things got shaky, so did I. I’ll never forget the words my father said to me on one of our normal Monday morning drive to school, “Regan, Please do well, I hurt, but I am working for you.” I teared up, it was frustrating because I knew I wasn’t being the best. When someone says the word “please”, it affects me in a different way, such a simple word seemed like he needed so much help, and it was true. To hear those words coming from such a

Thank you to high school, for teaching me to be reluctant to failure. One of my toughest memories I have to look back on everyday is my failure to push myself throughout high school because of fear and doubt. Devastation is a strong word, but I feel that way knowing I didn’t try harder, knowing that I can achieve what I need due to my focus and drive senior year. This could have helped in the beginning of high school.

I won’t regret that I believed my parents divorce, my father’s illness, and my 10 year old brother’s depression was an excuse to disturb me from school. I’m so thankful for these experiences, they taught me life lessons. My father’s scrutinizing medical problems lead to the divorce, mom wasn’t happy because of the money we were losing due to my father being sick and that has to be the hardest thing to think of everyday. My dad, a hard working retired firefighter taught me hard work, selflessness, and as basic as it sounds, to never give up on what you want. Seeing my father at such a young age struggle to take care of my siblings and I, sank my heart. He didn’t tell us what was going on with his heart. Oddly, my parents expected us to ignore the doctor phone calls, prescription bottles, and medical bills laid out on the kitchen table.

Us five had a good life for a while and when things got shaky, so did I. I’ll never forget the words my father said to me on one of our normal Monday morning drive to school, “Regan, Please do well, I hurt, but I am working for you.” I teared up, it was frustrating because I knew I wasn’t being the best. When someone says the word “please”, it affects me in a different way, such a simple word seemed like he needed so much help, and it was true. To hear those words coming from such a strong man was gut wrenching . On the way to cheer practice, I cried to my mom in the car. I can explain why, but I think you have a good understanding. My mom knew I wasn’t emotional and I knew she wasn’t used to this. Genuinely, no one has ever seen me emotional in the slightest bit, so that showed how hard this hit me. I was always happy, no matter what. So this explains that at this point in my life, my freshman to junior year was long-lasting. Junior year, no idea where I was even living, but yes, we got through it and I couldn’t be more content with where my life is.

I would like to add that cheer-leading helped me throughout this and it is something I would love to continue in college. Staying organized with my schedule is one of my biggest strengths and I work hard at it. Most importantly, I have learned from my dad that I have to work hard for myself because no one else will. Learning to be happy for myself after making sure my family was okay was the best thing. I did what was needed, getting physically and mentally healthy again.

I want a successful life, I want to help people along the way, anything is possible if you work for it, there might be bumps in the road, but there’s another chance. A chance at changing myself to be focused on strictly school and work would be exceptional. It is okay to be selfish until you have become who you want to be and find out where you want to go. I will achieve the things I want to and won’t let anything stop me from that. The excitement I have for a new start in my life is sensational.